When Love Is Lowly

Love can seem easy enough when we’re talking about our favorite people. Some people we just adore and love gushes out of us like full culverts in Oregon rain. (If you haven’t experienced Oregon rain, just trust me on this one.) Then2777932633_b1aa64bbf8_o there’s the people that I have a hard time smiling at. They’re the ones to whom I would rather give a large dose of “truth” over “love.” But Jesus shows me a different example.

As I watch Jesus on the last night of his life, I see him do the exact opposite of my natural desires. He truly loves those who are not easy to love, with self-humiliation even. And he doesn’t address the obvious sin issues in the room. Jesus chooses lowly love to the last people I want to love– the deceitful, the arrogant, and the overbearing.


Jesus chooses lowly love to the last people I want to love– the deceitful, the arrogant, and the overbearing.


Jesus isn’t surrounded by a comforting and supportive gang right before he dies. His crew is infiltrated with personal agendas and self-centeredness. I would have laid it all out to show myself in the right and them in the wrong if I were leading. Yet, John 13 makes it clear that at the forefront of Jesus’ mind is loving them to the end. Jesus chose the opposite of controlling the situation for his own good; he leads his disciples with love that doesn’t protect himself from shame, powerlessness, or hurt. Jesus loves lowly, through humiliating service. The God-Man washed the feet of the infuriating disciples… in a loin cloth… like the most unworthy of slaves.

Jesus loved the deceitful

The opening verses of chapter 13 let us know that Jesus knows his future, his identity, and his authority. (John 13:1-2) With that introduction, along with the clarity that Judas’ mind was set on betrayal, one would expect Jesus to take matters into his own hands. He has all the power, and he knows one of his closest friends is about to help kill him. This is one who had eaten, slept, talked, prayed, and ministered alongside him for years. The depth of the betrayal must have felt like a third degree burn. We can almost imagine the scene where Jesus confronts Judas with great anger (righteous anger, we’d even add) and turns the tables on this deceitful foe-friend. Instead, we see Jesus get up to strip off his clothes. He takes a towel, water, and a basin. He kneels in front of a disciple, likely Judas first as there is reason to believe he was sitting next to Jesus, and washes his feet. It’s probable that no one in the room had ever washed anyone else’s feet before. It was such a lowly task that it was associated with only the lowest of slaves– gentile women. Yet here’s Jesus washing the feet of his betrayer.

This is not my first inclination. I would have “fixed” the problem. I would have called it like I saw it, with self-righteousness and decisiveness. Judas would have left humiliated. Alternatively, Jesus chose humiliation and  service. Jesus loved lowly.

Jesus loved the arrogant

The disciples had a certain air about them by this time. James and John had, with the help of Mom, asked if they could have the top spots in Jesus’ rule. (Matt. 20:21) Peter was about to tell Jesus that even if everyone else abandoned him, Jesus could count on him – he was better than the other guys, apparently. (Matt. 26:33) Even that very day they had argued about who was the greatest. (Luke 22:24) Hands down: they were incredibly self-exalting and proud.

The disciples were seeking honor for their greatness, and while Jesus could have reminded them how much better he was than each of them, he didn’t. I would have at least reminded them of their place. Instead, Jesus loved lowly. Though they were seeking honor with all their might, Jesus chose shame as he performed the lowest of tasks to their shock and horror.

Jesus loved the overbearing

Peter was the one to express his horror out loud. “Lord, do you wash my feet?” wasn’t really a question if you read it in context. Peter wanted control of this situation. He didn’t like the idea of Jesus washing his feet, and his discomfort manifested in a strong prohibition. We see throughout the gospels Peter liked to talk back to Jesus and was doing that here. Though Peter believes Jesus is the Messiah, he also apparently believes that the Christ needs some molding from Peter’s wisdom once in a while.

In my desire to handle the opposition, I would have encouraged Peter to step in line, looking down on him from the place of top authority. Jesus doesn’t do that. Jesus doesn’t take away his choice; he gives him a statement that includes the consequences of not allowing Jesus to wash his feet. Jesus lowly loved him and continued to put himself at the bottom as he kneeled with water and a towel.

My natural response to deceit, arrogance, and overbearing action is to try to take on the situation and set them straight. That seems wise, right? While there may be times to address these attitudes, Jesus chose another way with his disciples. He showed them his character and mission in a humble act of service. He absorbed their evil attitudes and took the opportunity to give a foreshadowing of his humiliating act of service and cleansing to come the next day, his death on the cross.


Since he has loved us in our selfish agenda, arrogance, and controlling behavior, we can love others like that, too. It means we’re called to love lowly, even when it hurts.


Just after Jesus washes their feet and gets up again he explains, “If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet.” So there’s my scuttled preferences to only love those I gush over. Turning my concepts of shame and hierarchy on their heads, Jesus shows me how to love and serve everyone. It is love that is willing to walk into humiliation, shame, and the bottom place. The hard truth is that it does often lead to those things. Because it’s so hard, you and I can only love like that when we have first been washed, served, and loved ourselves by Jesus. Since he has loved us in our selfish agenda, arrogance, and controlling behavior, we can love others like that, too. It means we’re called to love lowly, even when it hurts.

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Editor’s Note: This article was originally posted at Verity Fellowship, and has been published with permission.

Taylor Turkington


Taylor remembers the day when she realized that God was great and she was not. It’s been an adventure full of grace ever since. Taylor grew up on a mini-ranch in Oregon but has loved living in multiple countries as an adult. She has worked for a church in the Portland area for the last six years, teaching, discipling, and training. She loves being involved in equipping and encouraging people for the work God has given them. Before her church-life, Taylor worked as a missionary in Eastern Europe and graduated from Western Seminary with a MA in Biblical and Theological Studies. Her favorite part of life is sitting one on one with a woman to tell her about the hope of Jesus, because she knows that she desperately needs that hope each day. Taylor is the co-director of the Verity Fellowship, a ministry to equip women from Western Seminary, and regularly writes on their site VerityFellowship.org.

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