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The more I grow in my faith, the more I realize that so much of Christianity is really about this:

“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” (Galatians 6:2)

Bearing one another’s burdens.

After being vulnerable and writing about infertility last month, many of you reached out to me with love, encouragement, compassion, and grace within moments of that article being published.

My people know how to fulfill the law of Christ.
My tribe loves well.
They bear my burdens.
They ask the hard questions.
They have entered in.

We all suffer. If you’re not going through a trial right now, you will be soon. That’s life. And being a Christian is no exception. God doesn’t promise us freedom from suffering, but He does promise us peace in the midst of suffering.

We all hurt. Behind the perfect pictures on Instagram, there is a hurting mom, a broken woman, a lonely friend. I see the post trying to cover up the hidden pain, the secret shame, the silent suffering. And when I do, I wish so badly that we as Christians would allow each other a little more freedom, a little more grace when we suffer. I wish we could be real, rather than pretend everything’s “okay.”

We all suffer. If you’re not going through a trial right now, you will be soon. That’s life. And being a Christian is no exception.

Perhaps that’s why I’ve always liked candid photos better. They’re not picture perfect. I love catching the real life moments, even if we’re not perfectly posed, or looking at the camera, or it’s a little blurry. Candids are real; real moments, real life. Not the pretendy ones we want to create and then post for everyone to see.

If I’m honest, sometimes it’s easier, it’s safer, to live in the “picture perfect.” If I can just pretend that everything is okay, if I can pose just right in my cute outfit, then everyone will see I’m okay. It’s safer that way.

But I remember I’m not called to easy, or pretty, or safe, or “perfect.” As a Christian, I am called to community, to real life, to honesty, to confession, to humility, and to vulnerability.

I am called not only to bear others burdens, but also to allow them to bear mine. I am called to enter in and allow others to do the same. To enter in my mess, my sin, my pain, and allow them to carry me.

And that is hard.

It is hard to trust people that much. It is hard to let

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others in to not only know how work is going, but to let them know how marriage is going.

I’m not called to easy, or pretty, or safe, or “perfect.”

I usually try and talk myself out of sharing the real answer to “how are you doing” because I don’t want to burden others, or I’m embarrassed, or it’s too much work to go there, or I just don’t feel like talking about it.

And those are the moments I need to enter in the most.

I need to be humble enough to ask for prayer, to say I’m not okay, and to share my burden.

Do you enter in?
Do you allow others to bear your burdens?
Are you willing to be humble, open, and vulnerable?
Do you have people who are willing to walk through the messy and the hard with you?
If not, what steps can you take to pursue healthy relationships with others?

Are you willing to walk through the messy and the hard with others?
Are you willing to enter in, even it costs you some of your time, some of your comfort?
Are you willing to enter in?


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Melissa Danisi


Melissa Danisi is the Co-Founder of Self Talk the Gospel and serves at The Well Community Church, encouraging and equipping women by teaching God’s word and shepherding leaders. Her greatest passion is to see women walk in the freedom of the Gospel and grow in their love of Jesus through the study of Scripture, which led to writing bible studies on Ephesians, Philippians, Sermon on the Mount, Spiritual Disciplines, and most recently Genesis. She recently received her Master’s Degree in “Pastoral Care to Women” from Western Seminary and has been married to her very Italian husband since 2006.

  • Victoria Puga Reynolds

    God so spoke to me through Enter In today. Thank you sharing.

  • Teresa Kelly Evans

    Oh. So. Good. The Lord has placed so much on my heart and mind and this fits right in. Thank you.

  • Dorina Gilmore

    Thanks for sharing this, Melissa! I feel like this has been one of the themes of my year – embracing my story in the beautiful mess that is life. It’s easy to run around the house and stuff the mess in closets when guests arrive unexpected but it’s so much more meaningful to allow them to *enter in* and to use every moment as an opportunity to invest in relationships. Thanks for this challenge and encouragement!

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